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Caring, Sharing
Nov. 13th, 2007 07:35 amI can't say that it's a bad thing, but I feel care and concern very keenly when my peeps are having a hard time. The biggest difference I've seen in myself since last year is that I'm developing the ability to trust that people know what's best for them.
When I'm feeling low, upset, worn out, I like to have lots of people around to distract me, eithyer physically or cyberly. I didn't used to be able to accept that everyone isn't like that, some people withdraw and need time on their own, some people throw themselves into a new project, there are many different ways people deal.
Currently a couple of my friends are having tough episodes, what I really want to do is reach out and cuddle them all, provide support, try to make things better, both of them are the 'withdrawing from the world' kind, so instead I have told them that I'm always here if they want me, but that I will wait to hear from them again when they're ready, and I will. I appreciate the fact that they have taken the time to honestly ask for what they need, so there has been no insecurity kick-back which has caused me problems before.
This represents a big thing for me.
When I'm feeling low, upset, worn out, I like to have lots of people around to distract me, eithyer physically or cyberly. I didn't used to be able to accept that everyone isn't like that, some people withdraw and need time on their own, some people throw themselves into a new project, there are many different ways people deal.
Currently a couple of my friends are having tough episodes, what I really want to do is reach out and cuddle them all, provide support, try to make things better, both of them are the 'withdrawing from the world' kind, so instead I have told them that I'm always here if they want me, but that I will wait to hear from them again when they're ready, and I will. I appreciate the fact that they have taken the time to honestly ask for what they need, so there has been no insecurity kick-back which has caused me problems before.
This represents a big thing for me.
